"I have nothing to offer, but my confusion"

We are what we are because we are said to be a certain way (labels, you see).
People are who they are to us, because we want them to be a certain way (we see what we look for, yes?)
Things turn out the way they do, because we chose our joys and sorrows before they happen, albeit indirectly.
So yes, we do have control of our lives, in some way, somehow, however limited.
So who are we to complain about the adversities of life. But then again, we are only human.

And then, we believe what we want to believe.
So I guess, sometimes, when things dont turn out the way we would like it to, the only lone explanation would be that..we dont really know what we want.